Bullies and self defense

Posted by gertlouw on February 15, 2016
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Click here to view video “HOW TO DEAL WITH BULLIES”

Now, I know that nobody likes violence and your mother or caretaker like it even less. But one thing you must realize is that you are becoming a young man and later you will even have your own family. A man’s PRIMARY function is to give shelter to his family and protect them. And that means there is no way getting away from some form of violence because the world is not a perfect place.

God created us differently than girls. We are stronger with bigger muscles. We are created to be protectors of the ones we love. But to protect we need to learn some skills!

 

BULLIES

Even now at school you might be facing bullies that use force and violence against you.

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Maybe you have looked the other way and just do what they say…but this I tell you as a man and father, you will carry this shame with you for the rest of your life until you STAND UP to them. NEVER EVER give a bully satisfaction. NEVER do what they say, ALWAYS stand your man (except when they are armed with a knife or dangerous weapon). No matter how many blue eyes it takes. The way a bully’s mind work is that they prey on the weak and those they can control. Once they realize they cannot control you, they will start leaving you alone and they will actually have respect for you. BUT to get to that you’re going to have to go though some mean stuff, because a bully does not easily let go. But I again emphasize, NEVER give in to a bully…stand your man no matter how many blue eyes it takes. There will come a time sooner than you think that the bully realize the effort is not worth the risk and just start leaving you alone. They will even start respecting you!  And the best part is, YOU will have respect for yourself, and this respect will play a big part in shaping your future.

A boy or young man MUST learn some form of self-defense. It is critical for every boy to be able to defend himself against bullies or other attackers.

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Note for mothers/caretakers: You might not like the idea but this is the truth. A boy and a man NEED to be able to physically defend himself and those around him that he love. In a perfect world this would not be necessary but we are NOT in a perfect world. Any father worth his weight would carry this over to his son and prepare him to be able to defend himself whenever it is required.

 

HOW DO I DEFEND MYSELF?

There are many forms of self-defense and whichever one you choose or like will need some formal training or at the very least watching some self-teaching youtube videos that you and a buddy can practice with. BUT, the aim is not here to hurt but to incapacitate.

The forms of self-defense from bad to good are:

  • Karate/other martial arts (takes long lead time to master effectively and mainly for hurting the opponent)
  • MMA/Boxing (less time to master but main aim is to hurt the opponent)
  • Judo/Wrestling (medium time to master and might be good choices)
  • JiuJitsu (BEST CHOICE – medium time to master and perfectly suited to not hurt a person and also take full control over a situation/bully in a quick and effective way.)

I have myself 13 years Karate/kickboxing and 4 years Judo background so it gives me a good insight into what form of self defense is best suited for a boy/young man.

Jui Jitso is the perfect self-defense tool for a boy who wants to deal with a bully quickly and effectively without having to hurt him. Some forms, like Gracie JiuJitsu, are actually specifically designed to give bully proof training.

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This form of self-defense is also VERY effective for adults and women who need to deal with any immediate danger situation as well

So ask your mother/caretaker to enlist you into one of these, preferably Jui Jitso and if that is not possible check out the following self teach videos to get you started.

Here are a view videos that will help you start teaching yourself. Get a friend and start mastering these moves. (There are many more on youtube – just type in something like “self teaching JiuJitsu moves”):

 

You to all my STRONG little friends out there…enjoy your self-defense moves…it is a lot of fun!

Gert Louw

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Filling your bottle with clean water

Posted by gertlouw on February 11, 2016
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As a boy and a young man, God created you perfectly. Unique and beautiful. There is no one else like you on this whole earth. The beauty you have inside, the eagerness to experience life and to live an adventure, the kindness, the love and the compassion…that is all what is you and what makes you beautiful.

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But as we grow older, this beautiful perfect “you” are slowly filled with things that take the shine away and make the beauty dim until it eventually completely disappear.

Let me explain it in this way…if you have a bottle of pure clean water and you add more pure clean water, then the whole bottle will stay clean and pure. But if you take this bottle and add some dirty water, the whole bottle will become dirty and it is a VERY difficult process to get the water clean again.Sureaqua-dirty-water-to-clean-water-webready

 

This is what happens to many boys who are these beautiful perfect people. They choose to mix with the wrong friends, listen to music that breaks the soul down, watch films and television programs that adds dirty water.

 

After a while the heart is going to be dirty. You CANNOT prevent it, no one can. What you allow to enter your ears and eyes day after day WILL shape you and make you. You have no control over it. It is critical that you fight with everything you have to keep your water in your bottle pure and clean.

Choose VERY carefully the music you listen to, the movies/tv you watch, tdownloadhe friends you mingle with, the books you read and the thoughts you entertain in your head. Something will either build you up or break you down…

Those are the things that will shape you and make you GdownloadREAT or NOT!

If you choose wisely, you will stay pure and clean and a beautiful, kind and compassionate person, just the way God created you. But if you choose to follow the call of the world and allowing all these dirty things to fill you, that beauty will disappear.

You have full control over it. I want to say it again – YOU HAVE FULL CONTROL OVER IT! Especially when you are a young boy. While you are still clean, pure and beautiful, make this choice and fight for it with everything you have.

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There are few really good men out there in the world today because many have decided to trade that beauty that God gave them for the dirty water of the world. Those men that rise above everyone else and become GREAT men and fathers, are those that keep fighting to keep this beauty at all cost and follow God.

 

Wish you all a BLESSED day boys!

Gert Louw

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Talking with integrity to people

Posted by gertlouw on February 10, 2016
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Ok, boys, here I am going to share with you how you can talk to someone and earn massive respect. This will make people take note of you in a big way.

Click here to watch video “How to talk with integrity to people”.

When you (as a boy) talk to someone or when someone talk to you, your reaction and body language will show a great deal about your integrity and what type of person you are.

This will either result in that person having immense respect for you or not.

Your life and path ahead will be MUCH easier in life when those around you have respect for you. Sure respect is much wider than just how you talk to someone but that is where it starts.

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How do you talk to someone so that they start respecting you?

Answer: The key lies in making the person feel important and making eye contact the whole time while you are talking to them.

For example, a friend of your mother come over to visit. If you are sitting on the couch playing with your tablet, immediately put down the tablet (taking your headphones off), walk up to the person, put out your hand and great the lady (or man) by looking them in the eye and say (example) “Hello Aunt Ellie”. Then you can return to what you were busy with. The fact that you stopped what you were doing, made the effort to get up and walk over to the person, look him or her in the eye, put out your hand and greeted them is a sign of an amazing character. I promise you, that you have earned respect from that person.

SO key rules of communicating:

  1. Stop what you’re doing and give the person all your attention.
  2. Look him/her the whole time in the eyes.
  3. Greet a person friendly by the hand.
  4. Make a person feel important to you and you will earn their respect.

 

In longer conversations the same rules hold. NEVER start typing on your tablet/phone. Give the person your undivided attention. Show him/her the whole time they are important to you.

If you do this, you will stand out from all the other boys (and girls) and people will take note of you!

Wish you boys a GREAT day!

Gert Louw

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Boys and Personal Hygiene

Posted by gertlouw on February 9, 2016
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Click here to watch the video “Personal Hygiene for boys”.

 

Being a boy can be a nasty business…Boys don’t like bathing and they are constantly dirty! But soon you will be turning into a man and all kind of changes will be happening – this I will discuss in another video.

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So let’s quickly go through the basic rules of personal hygiene that you as a boy and soon a young man have to attend to.

SMELL!

You might not smell yourself but everyone else will! Under our arms and all the other covered places our bodies sweat and in this sweat there are tiny bacteria that causes a bad smell. Being smelly will mean people will not want to be close to you and therefore less friends!

So the first rule is, WASH thoroughly with soap and water at least once a day the whole body and especially under the arms. Pay special attention also here to washing your penis thoroughly. If you got a foreskin pull it back completely and wash the head of the penis with soap and water. Even if you don’t have a foreskin over the penis, you must still wash it. If you don’t do this, you can get infection that will hurt badly! If you ever do get infection, ask your mother or caretaker to go to the pharmacy and buy (over the counter) BETADINE ANSTISEPTIC SOLUTION.

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This you use as follows – when finished showering, dry your body and penis and take a drop of two of the solution on two fingers. Rub the solution over the whole of the sore penis head and let it dry for a couple minutes and then put the foreskin back and get your clothes on. It should stop the infection. Try and do this twice a day. After 2 days if it does not get better, please tell your mother or caretaker to get you to a doctor, he will then have to give you special medication. Don’t be shy. Show him the affected areas and told him what you did to try and treat it. This has happened to many boys…but when it happens it is a sign that you are not washing the penis head clean enough.

Everyday after you bathed, put on a deoderent under the arms. This helps kills the smelly bacteria.

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HAIR

Remember this golden rule – Hair only looks good when it is clean and washed.

Wash your hair daily and make sure to rinse any shampoo completely from your head otherwise you might get dandruff (small white flakes).

Comb your hair always neatly…your appearance is the first thing people see about you and it says a lot.

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TEETH

I cannot stress enough how important it is to take care of your teeth.

Brush them morning and evening and also brush the tongue, otherwise a white plague growth will start developing on the tongue. After brushing, if you can afford it, use mouthwash for 1 min. It makes sure all the germs are dead and your breath will be smelling fresh.

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NAILS

Few things create such a bad image about yourself as having long dirty nails.

This is one of the first signs that you are not taking care of yourself. Your friends will see it, grown ups will see it, everybody will see it and it does NOT look good.

Clip them once a week (toes and finger nails) and keep them short and clean.

 

CLOTHES

Remember that your appearance is the first and sometimes only impression people have of you. The neater you are (tucked in shirt, combed hair, clean clothes) the better impression they will have of you.

You want to reach for the stars oneday, start now to work at the dreams in your head.

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Smelling good, looking good and neat, being clean…that is what is going to tell people you are a boy with a dream…a young man on his way to great things.

Wish you a GREAT day boys!

Gert Louw

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