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Now, I know that nobody likes violence and your mother or caretaker like it even less. But one thing you must realize is that you are becoming a young man and later you will even have your own family. A man’s PRIMARY function is to give shelter to his family and protect them. And that means there is no way getting away from some form of violence because the world is not a perfect place.

God created us differently than girls. We are stronger with bigger muscles. We are created to be protectors of the ones we love. But to protect we need to learn some skills!

BULLIES

Even now at school you might be facing bullies that use force and violence against you.

Maybe you have looked the other way and just do what they say…but this I tell you as a man and father, you will carry this shame with you for the rest of your life until you STAND UP to them. NEVER EVER give a bully satisfaction. NEVER do what they say, ALWAYS stand your man (except when they are armed with a knife or dangerous weapon). No matter how many blue eyes it takes. The way a bully’s mind work is that they prey on the weak and those they can control. Once they realize they cannot control you, they will start leaving you alone and they will actually have respect for you. BUT to get to that you’re going to have to go though some mean stuff, because a bully does not easily let go. But I again emphasize, NEVER give in to a bully…stand your man no matter how many blue eyes it takes. There will come a time sooner than you think that the bully realize the effort is not worth the risk and just start leaving you alone. They will even start respecting you!  And the best part is, YOU will have respect for yourself, and this respect will play a big part in shaping your future.

A boy or young man MUST learn some form of self-defense. It is critical for every boy to be able to defend himself against bullies or other attackers.

Note for mothers/caretakers: You might not like the idea but this is the truth. A boy and a man NEED to be able to physically defend himself and those around him that he love. In a perfect world this would not be necessary but we are NOT in a perfect world. Any father worth his weight would carry this over to his son and prepare him to be able to defend himself whenever it is required.

HOW DO I DEFEND MYSELF?

There are many forms of self-defense and whichever one you choose or like will need some formal training or at the very least watching some self-teaching youtube videos that you and a buddy can practice with. BUT, the aim is not here to hurt but to incapacitate.

The forms of self-defense from bad to good are:

• Karate/other martial arts (takes long lead time to master effectively and mainly for hurting the opponent)
• MMA/Boxing (less time to master but main aim is to hurt the opponent)
• Judo/Wrestling (medium time to master and might be good choices)
• JiuJitsu (BEST CHOICE – medium time to master and perfectly suited to not hurt a person and also take full control over a situation/bully in a quick and effective way.)

I have myself 13 years Karate/kickboxing and 4 years Judo background so it gives me a good insight into what form of self defense is best suited for a boy/young man.

Jui Jitso is the perfect self-defense tool for a boy who wants to deal with a bully quickly and effectively without having to hurt him. Some forms, like Gracie JiuJitsu, are actually specifically designed to give bully proof training.

This form of self-defense is also VERY effective for adults and women who need to deal with any immediate danger situation as well

So ask your mother/caretaker to enlist you into one of these, preferably Jui Jitso and if that is not possible check out the following self teach videos to get you started.

Here are a view videos that will help you start teaching yourself. Get a friend and start mastering these moves. (There are many more on youtube – just type in something like “self teaching JiuJitsu moves”):

You to all my STRONG little friends out there…enjoy your self-defense moves…it is a lot of fun!

Gert Louw